Here at Celamony we have been giving very careful consideration to all our funeral ceremonies taking place at the moment and we would like to share some of our thoughts with you.
Quite understandably the Government recently banned the gathering of two or more people in a public place and the concept of social distancing quickly became part of the national psyche. This immediately impacted on who could attend a loved one’s funeral especially when unnecessary travel bans were also introduced. Not only did it become immediately obvious that the impact on funerals was going to be huge regular updates about the possibility of thousands dying in a short space of time quickly led to fears of mass funerals or bodies being stored for long periods of time.
Frankly this was an appalling prospect and working very quickly the National Association of Funeral Directors quickly came up with plans to allow funerals to still take place with ceremony respect and dignity. These measures in simple terms were widely adopted and included limiting attendees to members of the immediate family who are not in any of the high-risk categories and are not self-isolating. The immediate family being:
Children (and partners)
Limiting attendees had to be done sensitively considering individual circumstances. Funerals were to be arranged over the phone or via other electronic means.
So in a very short space of time the funeral industry had a plan to move forward with and whilst limited funerals all over the country have still been taking place both generally and for those impacted by Covid 19 has this really been enough.
At Celamony we think it has been the very best the industry could do on very difficult national times.
However, has this been enough for grieving families to come to terms with the loss of family and friends. So where the actual funeral has been limited in numbers, where family relatives or friends are unable to attend given the restrictions on numbering, the funeral industry has been happy to explore ways to allow others to join the service, either through platforms such as Skype, or recording the service to send at a later date to anyone unable to attend. Streaming where possible to include other family members and perhaps planning a celebration of the person’s life in the months to come is the way Celamony see funerals moving over the next few months until all social restrictions are lifted and life can return to what we know.
Planning A Memorial Ceremony
Celamony suggest there must be a push towards more memorial ceremonies in the months to come.
Memorial Ceremonies after a funeral allow you to design a service that is exactly the way you want to say goodbye to your loved one and celebrate their life.
Sometimes in a traditional funeral grieving family are often rushed into making frantic, last minute decisions, deciding on the service, the music, the program, the poetry, the eulogy, the video. We are even aware that people live a life sentence of regret after the funeral, as they simply held a generic service, with no attempt to celebrate the uniqueness of their loved one.
Impersonal generic funerals do not help the family heal. People want to express how much the deceased meant to them and how much they are going to miss them.
In these very difficult times, the memorial ceremony may actually have many advantages for grieving families.
Yes, we know the pandemic restrictions are going to limit funerals significantly over the coming months but if you are affected plan your grief and pain can be overcome by celebrating in a memorial the life of your loved one.
What Advantages Does This Have At Present
The ideal memorial consists of favourite songs, stories, poems, photographs, tears, and yes…laughter.
They acknowledge the pain and give family and friends the right to cry, weep and laugh at the good times, to help deal with grief, but they do so much more.
They can really celebrate the life of the loved one. Anything goes at a memorial to really reflect recognise and remember the life of the deceased. They can also include so much more than the funeral originally limited by the restrictions placed on funerals in terms of time at the church or crematorium or indeed what certain burial sites will permit.
At this difficult time the use of a memorial ceremony allows you to express your feelings for the deceased often at a time when the initial raw grief of death has passed.
The service should recognise the death but celebrate the life.
This is the cornerstone of a service that we at Celamony will help you create.
It will illustrate how important the deceased’s life has been, and how much their life mattered.
A Memorial Service Can Take Everyone On A Journey Of The Deceased’s Life
Poignant and funny stories are shared. Story telling becomes paramount.
Celebrating becomes a pleasure.
Sometimes the memorial can be planned in life as well to make sure the deceased wishes are really carried out. If they had a particular funny story or anecdote that was important to them they can make sure it is included So have a look at our eulogy writing service and let us see if we can help you plan the memorial your family want.
Planning a memorial service, the right way, can ensure it is a unique personalized tribute and allows for flexibility in time and planning.
This is where the memorial ceremony really helps during the current virus crisis but also generally. You’re in control, allowing family and friends to take any amount of time to adjust to the new reality of death.
You can plan when and where to hold the memorial at your own pace.
Things which may have been missed in the shortened funerals currently taking place can be included.
If you want if your funeral has been videoed or live streamed show some of this – you may wish for hymns or songs which didn’t take place to be sung or played. Readings of whatever can now be included.
Here at Celamony we also think a massive advantage of a memorial after a short funeral at this time is the chance to put a legacy in place for the deceased.
Many friends or relatives who would have attended the funeral may have left a donation on the crematorium or churches collection plate or indeed sent flowers. This hasn’t happened so use this opportunity at the memorial to raise money for a favourite charity which will also have been suffering in these different times.
When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure if you use the memorial service to create a great legacy in their name. however big or small their memory will mean more by the good the memorial ceremony legacy can do.
Another big advantage to a memorial ceremony is location.
You can choose whatever was symbolic in the life of your loved one.
Many beautiful facilities exist as; Private event rentals are perfectly suitable for a remembrance of life. The key is to select a location that is symbolic of the deceased.
This Is When You Can Use Your Imagination!
Chose the venue that the deceased would have liked and appreciated. If it was a football club approach them – they will do all they can to help- if it was a historic garden or museum you wont be the first to ask- and obviously their favourite pub club or restaurant will be delighted to host you.
Everything is possible at the memorial ceremony – it just takes a little different planning. Contact us at Celamony where celebrating is a pleasure to see how we can help you celebrate the unique life of your loved one.
It will be the perfect way to celebrate with everyone who couldn’t attend the funeral being there. It will make the difficult grieving process easier in these strange times.